What have I come to?
I have come to perspective.
The hurt that this memory has caused is healing.
I guess that broken is better. I have said that before. I have ridden this rollar coaster, the ups and downs of life. Of pain, of tragedy, of horror.
And I am me.
That is what has become of it all.
And I like me.
I could focus on what I don't like, but that would only take me to scary places again.
Places like the pain that I feel realizing that I do have some of my mother in me. That I am going to once in a while say something from my childhood that could be tied to her.
I find it interesting. I smiled as I said that we couldn't swim until the snow had melted. I thought that being able to say that...smiling... that I was somehow a bit healed. A bit whole.
Was I wrong?
I ask because how come this conversation about the snow and my mother, and our flooding the basement,
...not how come...
--actually, HOW COULD I smile and say that to my own children, and yet, that VERY STATEMENT and childhood act and memory IS IN FACT the concluding statement of the the Grand Juridical proving of WHEN and WHERE and HOW I came to be abuse, beaten, molested, raped, abandoned....it all happened because of her.
Because she said those things, and we were children, and "shit happened" [to quote an unquotable].
And it is all history. My history. The story that I leave to my children.
And now, I have their future in my hands.
What will they say of me?
That is all I have left. Their future....and mine.
And it is what I make of it.
Perspective: When you are BLINDED by your trials, allow God to SHOW you his Eternal Perspective. "And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." Ether 12:27
This all leads back to my telling my husband. That morning.
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2 comments:
And the truth will set you free. Getting painful memories and feelings out into the sunlight promotes healing.
I saw a billboard the other day outside one of our high schools. It read:
Your children will not remember what you said. They will remember how you made them feel.
SO - stop worrying about what you may have said to your kids (a repetition from your own childhood) - they will remember how you make them feel.
I hate to tell you this, but all us women have a part of our mothers in us. Reality! We can minimize the defects and capitalize on our strengths.
With love,
PG
PG comment is so wise - and I agree - focus on how you make your children feel and they will know your love no matter what.
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